Love Languages…..

Song of Solomon 4:1

You are beautiful, my darling, beautiful beyond words your eyes like doves behind your veil. Your hair falls in waves, like a flock of goats winding down the slopes of Gilead.

As I explored the book Songs of Solomon, songs written by King Solomon during his reign expressing love between a married couple this week as a devotional in which the passage above was pulled. I reflected on how I would love someone to say and think highly of me, to be detailed and confident that works for me. Oh, how nice that would be. I am sure I would hold myself to an even higher standard. I would even hold my head high.

I guess I am just waiting on my turn? Where is he at lord? Why hasn’t this happened for me yet? Time is ticking you do see that right God?

And like a whisper a few days later God spoke to my heart and stated why wait? Why are you looking for someone else to say and think this way of you? It’s something you struggle with daily in how you see and view yourself? How will you know what anyone else is saying about you if you don’t have an understanding and clarity of the love language for yourself to yourself? Will you know if it’s real or heart-felt? That can lead to deception again.  Are you prepared to stand firm on Man’s words or God’s word?

To be totally transparent I have recently been struggling with accepting compliments, and positive affirmation from others:

  • I appreciate you
  • I am proud of you
  • I couldn’t do this without you

I always say to myself; they are just saying that, I can always be replaced, there is some one better, this can’t be for me, I don’t deserve it, ah they are just saying that to make me feel good in this moment. But as I continue to build character within myself.


  1. To get in a place I can respond with more than just a thank you to any positive words provided to me. Thank you is just so generic to me it’s a comfort and cheap go to phrase.
  2. Be able to remind myself daily of Gods promises and thoughts of me, to deflect any negative thoughts in any moment.

We all yearn, desire, and at times expect those words and praises from other people but never take the time out and acknowledge them within ourselves.

What are your strengths, your beauty, or purpose? What has God said about you that you can know without any doubt are true.

Take the time and remember; take the act of reattaching God’s words to yourself:

Matt 5:3-12

The Beatitudes

“God blesses those who are poor and realize their need for him,[a]
for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.
God blesses those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
God blesses those who are humble,
for they will inherit the whole earth.
God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice,[b]
for they will be satisfied.
God blesses those who are merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
God blesses those whose hearts are pure,
for they will see God.
God blesses those who work for peace,
for they will be called the children of God.
10 God blesses those who are persecuted for doing right,
for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.

11 “God blesses you when people mock you and persecute you and lie about you and say all sorts of evil things against you because you are my followers. 12 Be happy about it! Be very glad! For a great reward awaits you in heaven. And remember, the ancient prophets were persecuted in the same way.


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