Self Care, Are you Doing Enough For YOU!

 

    By Ebony IG: @ebunnie24
    Hey Y’all! Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving, the break was much-needed from work or school. One down and one more to go for this year. Can you believe it we are already at the end 2018? And heading into a new year, if this is not true for you, I can only speak for myself it is happening fast. Right now We are in that position of being between two holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas the season of giving. If it’s through affirmations, gifts or acts of service. At this point everyone should already be in a habit of giving.  And finding it rewarding. Though giving is a good thing and we could take the time out to focus on that I would like to remind you Do Not Forget About Yourself! I understand we as  people tend to fall victum to giving yourself whole heartedly without returns, and also tarpped in needing  approval of others, to be known as having our stuff together or just out of pure competition of other people.  Here are a few things we can reflect over to assure we are confidently moving out of a posture of Gods identity about us this season. By taking care of yourself too.

For me I have started incorporating a few things in my weeks routine that I have found helpful in me remain focused on what God has for me, helps me reset my feelings and really grasp the fact that I enjoy certain things and that is what makes me, me. This season I’m getting familiar with my identity and loving me for just that.

Gym/Exercise -I have been finding peace in the gym, it is proven facts that staying active helps with our mental standing, our thoughts. Many people suffer from depression in silence, and with this addition if can be improved some. Increased energy and relief of stress and improved mood. Theres just a natrual condidence in you when you feel good about your health and making great stides to be coming a more healthier you.

Appearance/Hygiene- No! I was not walking around without bathing or with my hair unkept, but I did just the basics. I have recently started adding facial mask to my routine at least once a week, it makes me sit still take a breather, think, and plan my next move.  I started treating myself to getting my nails done just another treat it’s great to feel pampered. My next challenge is at least monthly to create a look and go take pictures in my city, take time to put on an outfit that best fits your personality and your best make up look and have a photo shoot. There is nothing like capturing your confidence! You deserve it. This improves self-esteem for sure!

Finances-  At one point for a while I felt all I did was work come home and the money would be already going out just to stay afloat monthly. It felt like a cycle, and cycles especially unhealthy ones need to be broken. So, this year I took a stand to gain discipline in this area too. Still a work in progress. But stated he has given us power of all things and that includes this too. My goal is to tell my money where its to go and have it work for me. Move from the old ways of handling it and into a few new ways with Gods creative input. Pay myself an allowance each pay period. Set back money monthly in my savings. One of the creative ideas God had for me this year to make this possible, was giving up my own place and move in with my bestfriend, this will place us both on a journey of financial freedom. At first it was a disappointment. I questioned, why is it I can’t make it on my own, totally on my own. Now with knowing who I am and what Gods called me to do. He reminded me I never intended you to do anything on your own. And this move though it may seem not normal in the eyes of society, I never called you to fit in, so take this journey with me. Talk about humbling step WHHOOOAA! but i made it.  I can now look back over 2018 and say Lord if you had not arranged this for me I would not have been able to be a part of many things you have done this year. Financially I would not have been able to cover it. I see you working God, and I will continue trusting you.

Isaiah 40:31

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings Like eagles. The will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

Isaiah 41:10

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

Luke 10: 19-20

Look, I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them. Nothing will injure you. But don’t rejoice because evil spirits obey you; rejoice because your names are registered in heaven.

As life may seem to be going at full speed and demanding of you every minute. Find time. Make time, and do something for yourself, pour into you. So, in return you can truly give to others from a divine posture. For he has called us to reachh out to his people, but you need to love you and have the energy to do so. Continue resting and know God is moving on your behalf.

 

 

The day I had to say bye to Social Media …

-By Ebony, IG: @ebunnie24

Just for a moment I had to step away from social media platforms. With every posted picture comment or share, it was a reminder of what I have yet to check off my list of accomplishments. And what has not happened for me yet. Social media can easily be a tool that works against us and our positive thinking if we allow it and  don’t check ourselves at the door.  When I should have been celebrating with someone or inspired by something I felt myself becoming agitated and frustrated. And with those feelings came other feelings of misplacement, lack, unsuccessfulness and so on.

As the weekend progressed I was reminded my timeline is not everyone else’s timeline, and that agitation and frustration are choices!! They are responses and we can control. There are typically bigger and deeper seeded issues in which we are responding to, not the situation at hand.

Proverbs 16:9

We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.

What are my issues then?? I guess it would be good to identify them, so I can align what I may see as a need or lack in my eyes. Learn to align it to what God says about me and my “need” so I can respond from a posture of certainty, in knowing what God says is true of me.

I’m not sure if I shared it before but the two biggest dreams in my life is to have a family of my own, husband kids and to be in a place of financial success just above having just enough.  That’s all I wanted. Every other dream well it can or doesn’t have to happen if I have those two. God that’s a good enough deal. Right!

Just thinking and talking about money, debt and credit brings some slight discomfort for me, I remember habits, cycles and situations of my family from my childhood that I vowed would never happen to me and my family I will do what I must make sure of it! I found it a struggle to move from the posture of just enough of something to a place of overflow and increase.

Well I don’t have the family yet, and I’m working to maintain and improve my finances currently. I’m not at the point of being able to travel where I want when I want but I have made it to the point I can do what I want when I want with fewer guidelines in the name of treating myself LOL. I’m working on that too.

I have identified myself as falling in-between Expectations and Reality,

For just the dreams god has places on my heart, he reminded me he must be present and to do so I must make him manager not myself. And as he is manager it’s his expectations I need to see my life through.

God has open many doors placing me in positions and giving me opportunities to further myself career wise. Plans for multiple incomes if I were to see it that way. Addressing any suspicion regarding finances. Or I could just state “But God I didn’t ask you for that.” I have had the option to add mentors and accountability partners to my support to help me along my journey. So, I can have the results financial that I have asked from him.

God has placed me in relationships with others to improve my skills in maintaining any relationships obtained while on my wait for a husband. How can you expect to maintain anything without the skills? Communication, Endurance, Listening etc.  If only I see it that way. Opportunity to be a leader to grow confident in his words and works so I can be used for his glory.

Lord I refocus my eye on you, and your plan you have for me. Continue to transform my perspective to be more like yours. I thank you in advance for what you have in store for me.  Thank you for going ahead of me with protection and provision, pathing the way for me. I will continue saying Yes and Amen to your will and not mine. 

Jude 1:24-25

Now all glory to God, who is able to keep you from falling away and will bring you with great joy into his glorious presence without a single fault. All glory to him who alone is God, our Savior through Jesus Christ our Lord. All glory, majesty, power, and authority are his before all time and in the present and beyond all time! Amen

What’s your current perspective on your current position in life?

How are you responding?