Self Care, Are you Doing Enough For YOU!

 

    By Ebony IG: @ebunnie24
    Hey Y’all! Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving, the break was much-needed from work or school. One down and one more to go for this year. Can you believe it we are already at the end 2018? And heading into a new year, if this is not true for you, I can only speak for myself it is happening fast. Right now We are in that position of being between two holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas the season of giving. If it’s through affirmations, gifts or acts of service. At this point everyone should already be in a habit of giving.  And finding it rewarding. Though giving is a good thing and we could take the time out to focus on that I would like to remind you Do Not Forget About Yourself! I understand we as  people tend to fall victum to giving yourself whole heartedly without returns, and also tarpped in needing  approval of others, to be known as having our stuff together or just out of pure competition of other people.  Here are a few things we can reflect over to assure we are confidently moving out of a posture of Gods identity about us this season. By taking care of yourself too.

For me I have started incorporating a few things in my weeks routine that I have found helpful in me remain focused on what God has for me, helps me reset my feelings and really grasp the fact that I enjoy certain things and that is what makes me, me. This season I’m getting familiar with my identity and loving me for just that.

Gym/Exercise -I have been finding peace in the gym, it is proven facts that staying active helps with our mental standing, our thoughts. Many people suffer from depression in silence, and with this addition if can be improved some. Increased energy and relief of stress and improved mood. Theres just a natrual condidence in you when you feel good about your health and making great stides to be coming a more healthier you.

Appearance/Hygiene- No! I was not walking around without bathing or with my hair unkept, but I did just the basics. I have recently started adding facial mask to my routine at least once a week, it makes me sit still take a breather, think, and plan my next move.  I started treating myself to getting my nails done just another treat it’s great to feel pampered. My next challenge is at least monthly to create a look and go take pictures in my city, take time to put on an outfit that best fits your personality and your best make up look and have a photo shoot. There is nothing like capturing your confidence! You deserve it. This improves self-esteem for sure!

Finances-  At one point for a while I felt all I did was work come home and the money would be already going out just to stay afloat monthly. It felt like a cycle, and cycles especially unhealthy ones need to be broken. So, this year I took a stand to gain discipline in this area too. Still a work in progress. But stated he has given us power of all things and that includes this too. My goal is to tell my money where its to go and have it work for me. Move from the old ways of handling it and into a few new ways with Gods creative input. Pay myself an allowance each pay period. Set back money monthly in my savings. One of the creative ideas God had for me this year to make this possible, was giving up my own place and move in with my bestfriend, this will place us both on a journey of financial freedom. At first it was a disappointment. I questioned, why is it I can’t make it on my own, totally on my own. Now with knowing who I am and what Gods called me to do. He reminded me I never intended you to do anything on your own. And this move though it may seem not normal in the eyes of society, I never called you to fit in, so take this journey with me. Talk about humbling step WHHOOOAA! but i made it.  I can now look back over 2018 and say Lord if you had not arranged this for me I would not have been able to be a part of many things you have done this year. Financially I would not have been able to cover it. I see you working God, and I will continue trusting you.

Isaiah 40:31

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings Like eagles. The will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

Isaiah 41:10

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

Luke 10: 19-20

Look, I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them. Nothing will injure you. But don’t rejoice because evil spirits obey you; rejoice because your names are registered in heaven.

As life may seem to be going at full speed and demanding of you every minute. Find time. Make time, and do something for yourself, pour into you. So, in return you can truly give to others from a divine posture. For he has called us to reachh out to his people, but you need to love you and have the energy to do so. Continue resting and know God is moving on your behalf.

 

 

Love Languages…..

Song of Solomon 4:1

You are beautiful, my darling, beautiful beyond words your eyes like doves behind your veil. Your hair falls in waves, like a flock of goats winding down the slopes of Gilead.

As I explored the book Songs of Solomon, songs written by King Solomon during his reign expressing love between a married couple this week as a devotional in which the passage above was pulled. I reflected on how I would love someone to say and think highly of me, to be detailed and confident that works for me. Oh, how nice that would be. I am sure I would hold myself to an even higher standard. I would even hold my head high.

I guess I am just waiting on my turn? Where is he at lord? Why hasn’t this happened for me yet? Time is ticking you do see that right God?

And like a whisper a few days later God spoke to my heart and stated why wait? Why are you looking for someone else to say and think this way of you? It’s something you struggle with daily in how you see and view yourself? How will you know what anyone else is saying about you if you don’t have an understanding and clarity of the love language for yourself to yourself? Will you know if it’s real or heart-felt? That can lead to deception again.  Are you prepared to stand firm on Man’s words or God’s word?

To be totally transparent I have recently been struggling with accepting compliments, and positive affirmation from others:

  • I appreciate you
  • I am proud of you
  • I couldn’t do this without you

I always say to myself; they are just saying that, I can always be replaced, there is some one better, this can’t be for me, I don’t deserve it, ah they are just saying that to make me feel good in this moment. But as I continue to build character within myself.

MY GOALS:

  1. To get in a place I can respond with more than just a thank you to any positive words provided to me. Thank you is just so generic to me it’s a comfort and cheap go to phrase.
  2. Be able to remind myself daily of Gods promises and thoughts of me, to deflect any negative thoughts in any moment.

We all yearn, desire, and at times expect those words and praises from other people but never take the time out and acknowledge them within ourselves.

What are your strengths, your beauty, or purpose? What has God said about you that you can know without any doubt are true.

Take the time and remember; take the act of reattaching God’s words to yourself:

Matt 5:3-12

The Beatitudes

“God blesses those who are poor and realize their need for him,[a]
for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.
God blesses those who mourn,
for they will be comforted.
God blesses those who are humble,
for they will inherit the whole earth.
God blesses those who hunger and thirst for justice,[b]
for they will be satisfied.
God blesses those who are merciful,
for they will be shown mercy.
God blesses those whose hearts are pure,
for they will see God.
God blesses those who work for peace,
for they will be called the children of God.
10 God blesses those who are persecuted for doing right,
for the Kingdom of Heaven is theirs.

11 “God blesses you when people mock you and persecute you and lie about you and say all sorts of evil things against you because you are my followers. 12 Be happy about it! Be very glad! For a great reward awaits you in heaven. And remember, the ancient prophets were persecuted in the same way.