Self Care, Are you Doing Enough For YOU!

 

    By Ebony IG: @ebunnie24
    Hey Y’all! Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving, the break was much-needed from work or school. One down and one more to go for this year. Can you believe it we are already at the end 2018? And heading into a new year, if this is not true for you, I can only speak for myself it is happening fast. Right now We are in that position of being between two holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas the season of giving. If it’s through affirmations, gifts or acts of service. At this point everyone should already be in a habit of giving.  And finding it rewarding. Though giving is a good thing and we could take the time out to focus on that I would like to remind you Do Not Forget About Yourself! I understand we as  people tend to fall victum to giving yourself whole heartedly without returns, and also tarpped in needing  approval of others, to be known as having our stuff together or just out of pure competition of other people.  Here are a few things we can reflect over to assure we are confidently moving out of a posture of Gods identity about us this season. By taking care of yourself too.

For me I have started incorporating a few things in my weeks routine that I have found helpful in me remain focused on what God has for me, helps me reset my feelings and really grasp the fact that I enjoy certain things and that is what makes me, me. This season I’m getting familiar with my identity and loving me for just that.

Gym/Exercise -I have been finding peace in the gym, it is proven facts that staying active helps with our mental standing, our thoughts. Many people suffer from depression in silence, and with this addition if can be improved some. Increased energy and relief of stress and improved mood. Theres just a natrual condidence in you when you feel good about your health and making great stides to be coming a more healthier you.

Appearance/Hygiene- No! I was not walking around without bathing or with my hair unkept, but I did just the basics. I have recently started adding facial mask to my routine at least once a week, it makes me sit still take a breather, think, and plan my next move.  I started treating myself to getting my nails done just another treat it’s great to feel pampered. My next challenge is at least monthly to create a look and go take pictures in my city, take time to put on an outfit that best fits your personality and your best make up look and have a photo shoot. There is nothing like capturing your confidence! You deserve it. This improves self-esteem for sure!

Finances-  At one point for a while I felt all I did was work come home and the money would be already going out just to stay afloat monthly. It felt like a cycle, and cycles especially unhealthy ones need to be broken. So, this year I took a stand to gain discipline in this area too. Still a work in progress. But stated he has given us power of all things and that includes this too. My goal is to tell my money where its to go and have it work for me. Move from the old ways of handling it and into a few new ways with Gods creative input. Pay myself an allowance each pay period. Set back money monthly in my savings. One of the creative ideas God had for me this year to make this possible, was giving up my own place and move in with my bestfriend, this will place us both on a journey of financial freedom. At first it was a disappointment. I questioned, why is it I can’t make it on my own, totally on my own. Now with knowing who I am and what Gods called me to do. He reminded me I never intended you to do anything on your own. And this move though it may seem not normal in the eyes of society, I never called you to fit in, so take this journey with me. Talk about humbling step WHHOOOAA! but i made it.  I can now look back over 2018 and say Lord if you had not arranged this for me I would not have been able to be a part of many things you have done this year. Financially I would not have been able to cover it. I see you working God, and I will continue trusting you.

Isaiah 40:31

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings Like eagles. The will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

Isaiah 41:10

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

Luke 10: 19-20

Look, I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them. Nothing will injure you. But don’t rejoice because evil spirits obey you; rejoice because your names are registered in heaven.

As life may seem to be going at full speed and demanding of you every minute. Find time. Make time, and do something for yourself, pour into you. So, in return you can truly give to others from a divine posture. For he has called us to reachh out to his people, but you need to love you and have the energy to do so. Continue resting and know God is moving on your behalf.

 

 

Is there a Reason to be Thankful

BY EBONY IG:@ebunnie24

Thanksgiving is fast approaching. It’s the time we tend to reflect on all the good things God has done for us; gains, new beginnings and family. A time when we highlight the good in our lives. What if you’re not where you want to be yet? You feel the pressure of the world on your shoulders. Are you feeling confused, unfocused, or forgotten?? During my Devotionals this week I have been directed to shift negative thoughts and perspectives, regarding the struggles, and habits we all go through. Can we be thankful for our not so good seasons in life too?? What good can be found in them?

There are many of time we are at points of desperation, loneliness, and confusion. But why? This cannot be God’s purpose or will for our life….. Right?

I know oh to well the feelings of “this cannot be happening to me” or “again I have to start all over” maybe even “man, why is it I never have enough” I think we all can relate to feeling this way and saying a few words like this to friends or even God at times. If we could change the outlook toward those questions I wonder if we would be moved differently,  if we would still operate from the same posture we have been up to this point. Let’s try it out:

  • By this happening to me God what is it that you are trying to show me? What am I to learn form this? God utilize this time to continue drawing me closer to you.
  • With this new beginning, Lord how would you direct my first steps?
  • Lord I know you are a God of provision, continue to guide me in using what you have provided to me. Thank you. Even for what I don’t see currently.  

Shift your mindset. Break an old habit of thinking for a newer one. Interrupting a pattern. Keeping God at the center of our language and life changes the dynamics of our perspectives, and most likely our outcomes too.

I can think back to one of my recent rants this year, I asked God “what about me” I pour out, I set up, and I serve. But what about me? When will I be invited, where do I go to get poured into? They only answer I got was. “Ebony continue doing what I asked of you and find peace in it. For I am in the midst.” I had to redirect my focus on what I am learning in the current season; improving my communication skills, being able to confidently share my story, utilizing Gods language on a daily, devoting a routine every day to giving God time everyday simply drawing me closer to him for his purpose and will.

2 Cor 12:9-10

Each time he said,” My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weakness.” So that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ =. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Just reflecting that moment I had. I was full of raw emotions and moved by them too. But that’s not Christian of me. I am working to move from a posture of Faith. Confidently believing what God has for me is for my good he promises to protect and provide for me even when I don’t see it. Am happy to report I have not given up, I have been redirecting my thoughts daily still, and serving him. And have been doing so from a great place of Joy and Peace. Over the past week God has set up such great unions, opportunities for encouragement, refreshments, and additional mentorship.

This weekend the Ladies of Lavender Lemonade had the opportunity to have brunch, one of the refreshing unions God set up with Angela if you don’t know her now, get ready, she is on a mission to change that language here in our DFW area, in how women commune with each other. With judgment free events, to empower and love on each other. Angela is the founder of  Ever Evolving Women, a networking group that is created to change the narrative of Sisterhood by bringing women of all ages and cultures together authentically. Located here in the DFW area. Our visit was much need as stories and goals were shared laughter filled the place it just felt so right. God in any season know what you need and when you need it most.

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Go check out Angela and her mission,

Ever Evolving Women- DFW, TX

Linktr.ee/everevolvingwomen

IG: @everevolvingwomen

The day I had to say bye to Social Media …

-By Ebony, IG: @ebunnie24

Just for a moment I had to step away from social media platforms. With every posted picture comment or share, it was a reminder of what I have yet to check off my list of accomplishments. And what has not happened for me yet. Social media can easily be a tool that works against us and our positive thinking if we allow it and  don’t check ourselves at the door.  When I should have been celebrating with someone or inspired by something I felt myself becoming agitated and frustrated. And with those feelings came other feelings of misplacement, lack, unsuccessfulness and so on.

As the weekend progressed I was reminded my timeline is not everyone else’s timeline, and that agitation and frustration are choices!! They are responses and we can control. There are typically bigger and deeper seeded issues in which we are responding to, not the situation at hand.

Proverbs 16:9

We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.

What are my issues then?? I guess it would be good to identify them, so I can align what I may see as a need or lack in my eyes. Learn to align it to what God says about me and my “need” so I can respond from a posture of certainty, in knowing what God says is true of me.

I’m not sure if I shared it before but the two biggest dreams in my life is to have a family of my own, husband kids and to be in a place of financial success just above having just enough.  That’s all I wanted. Every other dream well it can or doesn’t have to happen if I have those two. God that’s a good enough deal. Right!

Just thinking and talking about money, debt and credit brings some slight discomfort for me, I remember habits, cycles and situations of my family from my childhood that I vowed would never happen to me and my family I will do what I must make sure of it! I found it a struggle to move from the posture of just enough of something to a place of overflow and increase.

Well I don’t have the family yet, and I’m working to maintain and improve my finances currently. I’m not at the point of being able to travel where I want when I want but I have made it to the point I can do what I want when I want with fewer guidelines in the name of treating myself LOL. I’m working on that too.

I have identified myself as falling in-between Expectations and Reality,

For just the dreams god has places on my heart, he reminded me he must be present and to do so I must make him manager not myself. And as he is manager it’s his expectations I need to see my life through.

God has open many doors placing me in positions and giving me opportunities to further myself career wise. Plans for multiple incomes if I were to see it that way. Addressing any suspicion regarding finances. Or I could just state “But God I didn’t ask you for that.” I have had the option to add mentors and accountability partners to my support to help me along my journey. So, I can have the results financial that I have asked from him.

God has placed me in relationships with others to improve my skills in maintaining any relationships obtained while on my wait for a husband. How can you expect to maintain anything without the skills? Communication, Endurance, Listening etc.  If only I see it that way. Opportunity to be a leader to grow confident in his words and works so I can be used for his glory.

Lord I refocus my eye on you, and your plan you have for me. Continue to transform my perspective to be more like yours. I thank you in advance for what you have in store for me.  Thank you for going ahead of me with protection and provision, pathing the way for me. I will continue saying Yes and Amen to your will and not mine. 

Jude 1:24-25

Now all glory to God, who is able to keep you from falling away and will bring you with great joy into his glorious presence without a single fault. All glory to him who alone is God, our Savior through Jesus Christ our Lord. All glory, majesty, power, and authority are his before all time and in the present and beyond all time! Amen

What’s your current perspective on your current position in life?

How are you responding?

 

 

Would you even know it when it comes…?

By Ebony Eugene, IG: @ebunnie24 @lavenderlemonade18 

We all have something we are waiting on. Things and events, we have attached timelines to. “Our timeline” Anticipating promotions, a husband, families and vacations around the world. We call those positive stressors where I work. With stress comes a play on your imagination, your thoughts, your words over yourself and perceptions, which leads me to ask, would you be able to recognize the very thing you are asking God for in your current state?

I have recently been reminded on many occasions that I am not waiting on God to move he has already gone before me. Rather he is waiting on me. So, this week I have been pondering on that thought and if that’s the case there is something in the season I need to be learning, improving, or tool that needs sharpening. I asked myself just as I have asked you, if God moved when I saw fit, or when I ask, would I even recognize it or would I pass it up? Would it have gone over looked because I was not in a matured walk with him to even notice how his gift differs from anything the world has to offer.

How do you know that it is a God’s gift?

How do you know that a door has been, God opened?

Think of it this way just as you have given gifts you put that individuals name on it. Their title … a label. So, what are Gods names for you? Let’s take a look at a few verses…

Song of Songs 4:7 – You are altogether beautiful, my darling, beautiful in every way.

John 14:27 – I am Leaving you with a gift- peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give is a gift the world cannot give. So, don’t be troubled or afraid.

Also, how do you know your residence from your neighbors, an assigned address Right? your own designated location. Where is God promising you will be? Check this out…

Psalms 91:1-3 – Those who live in the shelter of the Most High will find rest in the shadow of the Almighty. This I declare about the lord: He alone is my refuge, my place of safety; he is my God, and I trust him. For he will rescue you from every trap and protect you from deadly disease.

Romans 8:37 – No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.

God’s Language! It’s the key we must make ourselves familiar with it, so we can notice our prayers, gifts and open doors in our daily living. What does it sound like? Uplifting, love, guidance. What does it look like? Trust, confidence, peace and protected

We are already familiar with societies language for us, and some maybe the language of parents or a past teacher growing up. Lack, alone, who cares, fear and anger. So, it is easy for us at times to be comfortable in picking gift labels with those names or walk through those doors. But, that’s not what God intended for us. It’s important for us to study our word, worship God and pray daily because in those moments there is direction. In His direction we will find our familiarity to be able to notice God’s moves presence, and will for our life on a daily.

Share in the comments -What names do you struggle to realize God is calling you?