Self Care, Are you Doing Enough For YOU!


    By Ebony IG: @ebunnie24
    Hey Y’all! Hope you all had a great Thanksgiving, the break was much-needed from work or school. One down and one more to go for this year. Can you believe it we are already at the end 2018? And heading into a new year, if this is not true for you, I can only speak for myself it is happening fast. Right now We are in that position of being between two holidays, Thanksgiving and Christmas the season of giving. If it’s through affirmations, gifts or acts of service. At this point everyone should already be in a habit of giving.  And finding it rewarding. Though giving is a good thing and we could take the time out to focus on that I would like to remind you Do Not Forget About Yourself! I understand we as  people tend to fall victum to giving yourself whole heartedly without returns, and also tarpped in needing  approval of others, to be known as having our stuff together or just out of pure competition of other people.  Here are a few things we can reflect over to assure we are confidently moving out of a posture of Gods identity about us this season. By taking care of yourself too.

For me I have started incorporating a few things in my weeks routine that I have found helpful in me remain focused on what God has for me, helps me reset my feelings and really grasp the fact that I enjoy certain things and that is what makes me, me. This season I’m getting familiar with my identity and loving me for just that.

Gym/Exercise -I have been finding peace in the gym, it is proven facts that staying active helps with our mental standing, our thoughts. Many people suffer from depression in silence, and with this addition if can be improved some. Increased energy and relief of stress and improved mood. Theres just a natrual condidence in you when you feel good about your health and making great stides to be coming a more healthier you.

Appearance/Hygiene- No! I was not walking around without bathing or with my hair unkept, but I did just the basics. I have recently started adding facial mask to my routine at least once a week, it makes me sit still take a breather, think, and plan my next move.  I started treating myself to getting my nails done just another treat it’s great to feel pampered. My next challenge is at least monthly to create a look and go take pictures in my city, take time to put on an outfit that best fits your personality and your best make up look and have a photo shoot. There is nothing like capturing your confidence! You deserve it. This improves self-esteem for sure!

Finances-  At one point for a while I felt all I did was work come home and the money would be already going out just to stay afloat monthly. It felt like a cycle, and cycles especially unhealthy ones need to be broken. So, this year I took a stand to gain discipline in this area too. Still a work in progress. But stated he has given us power of all things and that includes this too. My goal is to tell my money where its to go and have it work for me. Move from the old ways of handling it and into a few new ways with Gods creative input. Pay myself an allowance each pay period. Set back money monthly in my savings. One of the creative ideas God had for me this year to make this possible, was giving up my own place and move in with my bestfriend, this will place us both on a journey of financial freedom. At first it was a disappointment. I questioned, why is it I can’t make it on my own, totally on my own. Now with knowing who I am and what Gods called me to do. He reminded me I never intended you to do anything on your own. And this move though it may seem not normal in the eyes of society, I never called you to fit in, so take this journey with me. Talk about humbling step WHHOOOAA! but i made it.  I can now look back over 2018 and say Lord if you had not arranged this for me I would not have been able to be a part of many things you have done this year. Financially I would not have been able to cover it. I see you working God, and I will continue trusting you.

Isaiah 40:31

But those who trust in the Lord will find new strength. They will soar high on wings Like eagles. The will run and not grow weary. They will walk and not faint.

Isaiah 41:10

Don’t be afraid, for I am with you. Don’t be discouraged, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you. I will hold you up with my victorious right hand.

Luke 10: 19-20

Look, I have given you authority over all the power of the enemy, and you can walk among snakes and scorpions and crush them. Nothing will injure you. But don’t rejoice because evil spirits obey you; rejoice because your names are registered in heaven.

As life may seem to be going at full speed and demanding of you every minute. Find time. Make time, and do something for yourself, pour into you. So, in return you can truly give to others from a divine posture. For he has called us to reachh out to his people, but you need to love you and have the energy to do so. Continue resting and know God is moving on your behalf.



Anticipation,Perfection & Cookie Cutters

Hey! The Ladies of Lavender Lemonade just wanted to stop in before airing our very first podcast. We want to Thank all of our supporter up until this point. The willing ones and the ones we may have had to strong-arm LOL. We wish we could express how excited we are for this opportunity, but there will ever just be enough words to say. This journey has been a windy just up until this point nothing negative, no hurt feeling or misunderstanding. Just …..

Lets start with Anticipation, the action of expecting or predicting. This podcast all started as a suggestion, just an entertaining thought. Something so small that in the beginning could have easily been replaced or dismissed. That just didn’t happen for us we started seeing past that thought envisioning a future for this thing added direction and some dreams now we on to something. This all seems normal right? There no harm in anticipation? But I’m sure as we all know and have experienced there is no anticipation without its 2nd cousin twice removed Worry, the negative thoughts, images and emotions, perceived as some possible outcomes. By this point we have had to reassure each other, it’s okay we will try, we will do great. Gods placed it on our hearts to use our voices to encourage his people LETs GO!   It has been a blessing to have the support of faith focused peers around to help realign our thought daily, it helps not to confuse the two Anticipation and Worry, its nothing wrong with dreaming, having a plan, and expectations. It’s the worrying we tend to get hooked up on, that turns everything upside down be aware. Reflect a little, is there anything that’s been on your heart to do? Has your list of concerns and doubts been out weighting the purpose in which God placed that dream on your heart? How can you remain in a posture of a positive head space daily? What practical steps could you add to your living routine that will help you move in that positive direction?

With that said we are led to the ideal of Perfection, the state of being free of any possible flaws or defects. It’s always a thought to where do we get this idea from? How is it everything must be in a particular order, and it’s not done right unless I do it? Why is it that it’s okay when it comes to others to make mistakes and grow from it but us Oh No! Especially from the stand point of an African-American female, educated and working in the corporate world. Having the opportunity to live life with the Ladies of Lavender Lemonade I have seen it in each of us in everything we do. It must be done to a certain degree, we have said it once and I’m sure many more times to come Quality over Quantity! Or I’m not to think like that or Saying that! But WE TOO ARE HUMANS, we will fall we will be defeated, but it’s what we do afterwards that counts keep going!

Being human means, you will make mistakes. And you will make mistakes, because failure is Gods way of moving you in another direction. Oprah Winfrey

Lastly we are not to fit a mold, we are not cookie cutter, each Lady of Lavender Lemonade holds such different talents, skills and cares. We all play a valuable role not only to each other but whom ever we come in contact with. We can all try to alter our behaviors, the things we do and say yet if we do not build on our identity, get into a routine in remind ourselves daily of: 1.  who’s we are  2: who we are in that. We will forever feel like our journey is to walk in circles. Purposeless in self effort. For us we are walking in a posture of We are Gods daughter’s heiress to the throne, loved, and favored. From that stand point we chose to participate willingly in whatever god has planned for us at the time, he has not set out to harm us. We are his ambassadors, just speaking from places of experience.

For you formed my innermost parts; You knit me in my mother’s womb. I will give thanks and praise to you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; Wonderful are your works, and my soul knows it very well. Ps 139: 13-14

Please be sure to listen in Sept 24th as we air our first podcast. We hope you like it, and we hope we can be a source of encouragement in the future. Again, we Thank you for checking us out please be sure to subscribe to or social sites and feel free to contact us with questions, or suggestions.

Ladies of Lavender Lemonade