Is there a Reason to be Thankful

BY EBONY IG:@ebunnie24

Thanksgiving is fast approaching. It’s the time we tend to reflect on all the good things God has done for us; gains, new beginnings and family. A time when we highlight the good in our lives. What if you’re not where you want to be yet? You feel the pressure of the world on your shoulders. Are you feeling confused, unfocused, or forgotten?? During my Devotionals this week I have been directed to shift negative thoughts and perspectives, regarding the struggles, and habits we all go through. Can we be thankful for our not so good seasons in life too?? What good can be found in them?

There are many of time we are at points of desperation, loneliness, and confusion. But why? This cannot be God’s purpose or will for our life….. Right?

I know oh to well the feelings of “this cannot be happening to me” or “again I have to start all over” maybe even “man, why is it I never have enough” I think we all can relate to feeling this way and saying a few words like this to friends or even God at times. If we could change the outlook toward those questions I wonder if we would be moved differently,  if we would still operate from the same posture we have been up to this point. Let’s try it out:

  • By this happening to me God what is it that you are trying to show me? What am I to learn form this? God utilize this time to continue drawing me closer to you.
  • With this new beginning, Lord how would you direct my first steps?
  • Lord I know you are a God of provision, continue to guide me in using what you have provided to me. Thank you. Even for what I don’t see currently.  

Shift your mindset. Break an old habit of thinking for a newer one. Interrupting a pattern. Keeping God at the center of our language and life changes the dynamics of our perspectives, and most likely our outcomes too.

I can think back to one of my recent rants this year, I asked God “what about me” I pour out, I set up, and I serve. But what about me? When will I be invited, where do I go to get poured into? They only answer I got was. “Ebony continue doing what I asked of you and find peace in it. For I am in the midst.” I had to redirect my focus on what I am learning in the current season; improving my communication skills, being able to confidently share my story, utilizing Gods language on a daily, devoting a routine every day to giving God time everyday simply drawing me closer to him for his purpose and will.

2 Cor 12:9-10

Each time he said,” My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weakness.” So that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ =. For when I am weak, then I am strong.

Just reflecting that moment I had. I was full of raw emotions and moved by them too. But that’s not Christian of me. I am working to move from a posture of Faith. Confidently believing what God has for me is for my good he promises to protect and provide for me even when I don’t see it. Am happy to report I have not given up, I have been redirecting my thoughts daily still, and serving him. And have been doing so from a great place of Joy and Peace. Over the past week God has set up such great unions, opportunities for encouragement, refreshments, and additional mentorship.

This weekend the Ladies of Lavender Lemonade had the opportunity to have brunch, one of the refreshing unions God set up with Angela if you don’t know her now, get ready, she is on a mission to change that language here in our DFW area, in how women commune with each other. With judgment free events, to empower and love on each other. Angela is the founder of  Ever Evolving Women, a networking group that is created to change the narrative of Sisterhood by bringing women of all ages and cultures together authentically. Located here in the DFW area. Our visit was much need as stories and goals were shared laughter filled the place it just felt so right. God in any season know what you need and when you need it most.

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Go check out Angela and her mission,

Ever Evolving Women- DFW, TX

Linktr.ee/everevolvingwomen

IG: @everevolvingwomen

The day I had to say bye to Social Media …

-By Ebony, IG: @ebunnie24

Just for a moment I had to step away from social media platforms. With every posted picture comment or share, it was a reminder of what I have yet to check off my list of accomplishments. And what has not happened for me yet. Social media can easily be a tool that works against us and our positive thinking if we allow it and  don’t check ourselves at the door.  When I should have been celebrating with someone or inspired by something I felt myself becoming agitated and frustrated. And with those feelings came other feelings of misplacement, lack, unsuccessfulness and so on.

As the weekend progressed I was reminded my timeline is not everyone else’s timeline, and that agitation and frustration are choices!! They are responses and we can control. There are typically bigger and deeper seeded issues in which we are responding to, not the situation at hand.

Proverbs 16:9

We can make our plans, but the Lord determines our steps.

What are my issues then?? I guess it would be good to identify them, so I can align what I may see as a need or lack in my eyes. Learn to align it to what God says about me and my “need” so I can respond from a posture of certainty, in knowing what God says is true of me.

I’m not sure if I shared it before but the two biggest dreams in my life is to have a family of my own, husband kids and to be in a place of financial success just above having just enough.  That’s all I wanted. Every other dream well it can or doesn’t have to happen if I have those two. God that’s a good enough deal. Right!

Just thinking and talking about money, debt and credit brings some slight discomfort for me, I remember habits, cycles and situations of my family from my childhood that I vowed would never happen to me and my family I will do what I must make sure of it! I found it a struggle to move from the posture of just enough of something to a place of overflow and increase.

Well I don’t have the family yet, and I’m working to maintain and improve my finances currently. I’m not at the point of being able to travel where I want when I want but I have made it to the point I can do what I want when I want with fewer guidelines in the name of treating myself LOL. I’m working on that too.

I have identified myself as falling in-between Expectations and Reality,

For just the dreams god has places on my heart, he reminded me he must be present and to do so I must make him manager not myself. And as he is manager it’s his expectations I need to see my life through.

God has open many doors placing me in positions and giving me opportunities to further myself career wise. Plans for multiple incomes if I were to see it that way. Addressing any suspicion regarding finances. Or I could just state “But God I didn’t ask you for that.” I have had the option to add mentors and accountability partners to my support to help me along my journey. So, I can have the results financial that I have asked from him.

God has placed me in relationships with others to improve my skills in maintaining any relationships obtained while on my wait for a husband. How can you expect to maintain anything without the skills? Communication, Endurance, Listening etc.  If only I see it that way. Opportunity to be a leader to grow confident in his words and works so I can be used for his glory.

Lord I refocus my eye on you, and your plan you have for me. Continue to transform my perspective to be more like yours. I thank you in advance for what you have in store for me.  Thank you for going ahead of me with protection and provision, pathing the way for me. I will continue saying Yes and Amen to your will and not mine. 

Jude 1:24-25

Now all glory to God, who is able to keep you from falling away and will bring you with great joy into his glorious presence without a single fault. All glory to him who alone is God, our Savior through Jesus Christ our Lord. All glory, majesty, power, and authority are his before all time and in the present and beyond all time! Amen

What’s your current perspective on your current position in life?

How are you responding?

 

 

Pinstripes – Review

4 out of 5 bunches of lavender
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Top menu items:

  • garlic mash potatoes
  • veggie lasagna
  • balsamic pear salad
  • Calamari

Activities:

  • Bowling 4 private lanes upstairs 8 lanes down stairs
  • Bocce (an Italian game similar to lawn bowling but played on a shorter, narrower green.)

Final thoughts:

Perfect for events intimate weddings, launch parties, anniversary.
Also a great spot to have brunch.